Being Likeable

For both my work and my personality, I often find it freeing to remind myself that some people just won’t like it. No matter what we do, we’re bound to rub up against some form of pushback or distaste. If we’re always trying to satisfy the needs of everyone encountering our work then we areContinue reading “Being Likeable”

Happiness Is?

Be wary of what others claim should make you happy. I’m re-reading Sara Ahmed’s The Promise of Happiness: a book on how happiness enters feminist and queer-centred discussions. Happiness is often used by oppressors to say “this is what you should be doing to feel good about yourself.” The “sentimentalization of heterosexuality as ‘domestic bliss’,”Continue reading “Happiness Is?”

Letting Go

I’ve more or less written about this before, but the more I reflect on it, the more I realize the importance of simply letting things be. When I’m caught in a maelstrom of emotion that distracts me from my creative priorities, I convince myself that I have to try to resolve the issue. It’s fixableContinue reading “Letting Go”

Confronting Discomfort

It’s much easier to avoid a difficult conversation than it is to have one. But too often we miss out on a discomfort that will ultimately heal us. Challenging confrontations of messy situations are an inevitable part of any collaborative process. Conflicts arise. Tensions mount. Clear communication, especially in the face of misunderstanding or disappointment,Continue reading “Confronting Discomfort”

Focus On What You Know

We can easily let our minds get carried away. We confabulate and fill in the blanks with completely fabricated information. When we are uncertain we become desperate for certainty, entertaining absurd notions in an attempt to make sense of the chaos. Creative minds can often get anxious. Sometimes it’s comforting to focus solely on theContinue reading “Focus On What You Know”

Willingness to Be Wrong

I’ve worked with artists who are polite and do all the “right things” when it comes to communication and collaboration (smiling, nodding, repeating notes back to show they were listening) but who still put me on edge. It’s like there’s something lurking beneath the surface that’s going to bite any second. Every suggestion feels judged,Continue reading “Willingness to Be Wrong”

Narrative Narrative

The stories we tell about ourselves and other people can be repeated so often, and questioned so little, that they take on the appearance of normal. Storytelling is a powerful force, as it can carve new perspectives in our minds and nudge us away from the limited realities we’ve created for ourselves. Empathy and allContinue reading “Narrative Narrative”

Compatibility vs. Worthiness

“There are other people who have problems with you.” “I didn’t even want to talk about this because I knew you’d just deny it and not hold yourself accountable.” Ooof. Words can hurt. These are statements that have been in my head and may not leave for a long time. I wish I could findContinue reading “Compatibility vs. Worthiness”